This novel also taught me a great deal about Sri Lanka and the customs of its people. As far as, I know arrange marriage is very best because if you arrange marriage than everyone will give respect in your society and your parents will live with you forever but if you love marriage everyone will abuse you and it may that your parents will not to talk with you. So there is a two way to spend our new life 1 -love marriage and 2 - arrange marriage. They share their feelings, happiness, good and also bad. Storge love is usually missing because of emotional or psychological problems. One definitely need to take time while choosing your life partners so definitely I will prefer love marriage. All in all I was very pleased with this book, I found it easy to read because of the quick little vignettes, the broke the story up very nicely.
It will keep it secure! But marriage is most important part of every ones life. I respect what all of your point of view but what my point of view is, that I prefer love marriage because in love marriage people understand each other so much what they want or not etc but it doesn't mean I criticize arrange marriage or I am against of arrange marriage because all people have their own choice and own opinions so I think no one can take bad decisions for themselves. Rate this: +32 -4 Kanika Rajkhowa said: Jul 12, 2018 Hi, my name is Kanika. Parents are the most important part of our life. Sometimes people wants to hide their past just to hide how bad th This story revolves around a American living Sri Lankan Tamil girl, Yalini. You have good level of understanding with each-other and trust factor is on the higher side.
There's a family tree in the first few pages but you won't need it - she lovingly details each person and drops hints just when you need them. Mais il y a également très présents, la guerre et le terrorisme au Sri Lanka, les Tigres, le conflit des Tamouls. My beloved adopted land is portrayed as open to misuse, allowing avowed terrorists to enter and avail of our generous medical system, while our government at the time turns a blind eye on terrorist funding sources that flourish and fan carnage abroad. We don't choose our life partners ourselves. I prefare love marriage then arrange marriage.
If you make those ties, those people are your family. A picture of a complete marriage is a husband and wife who lay down their life for each other agape love no matter how many times the other offends them or causes them to have ill feelings. Ganeshananthan explores not only the life of a young Sri Lankan woman living in America, but also the lives of several generations of her family and the history of her country. And there are no referees in cricket, dear Yalini, only umpires—take note! But overall I enjoyed it. Gods desire for the husband and wife is that they tenderly love phileo each other while they overlook each others faults and failures agape. Behavior of the two involved in this marriage like institution. Rate this: +30 -16 Rashi said: Aug 5, 2018 In my opinion, the arrange marriages are much better than love marriages because first of all it is according to the consent and happiness of both the families.
They have a lot of expectations from us. Her character still was a mystery to me. This intimate connection allows the book to become the study of a family and one person all at once. Rajasekhar said: Oct 14, 2018 Hi, friends, In My point of view about the love marriage vs arrange marriage:. They also live in happiness and peace , because they had chosen each other from the beginning. While Jenani is determined in her beliefs and goals, Yalini still struggles to find her way.
I thought the book was great. She and her family care for her dying uncle she had never met and through this she learns and keeps a record of the past generations of her family and the turmoil in Sri Lanka. They provide food, cloth, better education. Every problem which arises should be solved within the four walls of the room without involving a third party. Birth stats with water death end with water too. So according to me, I like love marriage. And most important thing, there will be no dowry system.
In this globe-scattered Sri Lankan family, we speak of only two kinds of marriage. Unfortunately, they are demanding for arrange marriage and they are against of love marriage then only do whatever our family want because our love marriage feelings are too small in front of their love, care, financial support and most importantly so many sacrifices. It is told from the perspective of the daughter of Sri Lankan immigrants, Yalini, who struggles with what it means to exist in two cultural worlds. Because the stories of many different members of the family are told throughout the novel, it is hard to get attached to any character. I will admit that, if nothing else, it educated me about the political unrest in Sri Lanka that has been ongoing for over thirty years.
Rate this: +51 -15 Shweta said: Oct 12, 2018 The marriage should have two honest people with the idea to share their life as partners like friends. If you compare both the marriage institutions, you will find that there are a few things which you like in arranged marriage and there must be many things which you find good in love marriage. And in love marriage, the person does not regret his decisions because both couples are decided partner after knowing each other. They should think what is more important the community or their children. It was advocated that words of the family head was supreme it was good karma to obey the elders. If this section was moved up to an earlier point in the novel it would make much more sense structurally and in terms of character development.
And think not you can direct the course of love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. In love marriage, the most important factor is that destroy the dowry system. Sometimes they are wary of the repercussion of the society and relative bandwagon. It has been said that phileo love is a human love. Her attention to detail and ability to create such a diverse cast of characters is impressive.
In most cases, the woman is killed, however in some cases couples are killed. But in arrange marriage by arranging one meeting how could they decide that they made for each other. In love marriage to people connect hurtly. Their lives were entwined with the violence and atrocities of the civil war of Ceylon and some of them made difficult choices. Sometimes love marriage is better as same time arranged also better in some cases. The book is written in very short chapters that make it easy and quick to read.